What Not to Worry About

“Everybody says it’s going to change your life. OK, well...what does that mean?” - Dad-to-Be

What Not to Worry About

“Everybody says it’s going to change your life. OK, well...what does that mean?” - Dad-to-Be

What Not To Worry About

You have a lot of work ahead: crucial strategies to develop, and a life-changing personal transformation to navigate. A man becoming a father has a lot on his mind. A good first step is to focus on those issues worth the mind space. Here are a few things our dads have learned that may help you out:

DON'T WORRY ABOUT

Your Baby’s Birth:
Go ahead and worry about your baby – we all did. But for handling your job as her coach, we put everything you need to know in the Cornerman’s Coaching Guide. (link coming soon). Download or print it, look it over and when she says “I think I feel it,” you’ll be ready to go.

Dropping Your Baby:
Dads don’t drop their infants, and neither will you. On the other hand, once they go mobile at six months or so, our dumb and fearless babies regularly attempt to shorten their longevity. That’s when you should worry.

Taking Care of Your Baby:
In our workshops, even the most nervous dads-to-be only take a few minutes to get used to holding a baby for the first time. After just a few times changing, feeding, burping or bathing your baby, you’ll get the hang of it. While those first days can be frustrating, you’ll get 80% of it down after two weeks, and soon you’ll be an expert at it.


THINK ABOUT

The New Mom in Your Life:
Some new fathers are stunned by a rapid decline in their relationship once the baby arrives; others find theirs ultimately flourishing. If you understand how a woman transforms into a mother, how to support her, how to work together in raising your baby and how to bring back the romance, you’ll be a happy dad. 

The Economics of a Baby:
Your family’s finances will change and you’ll need to respond constructively. In addition to outlining a new family budget, you’ll want to look at who works, who cares for the baby, commitments to long commutes or big mortgages, and how you and mom can bring balance to your lives, etc. Needless to say, big changes may be in order.

The Need to Be Proactive:
It’s easy to get swept along in mom’s wake by the changes a new baby brings, but you run the risk of going in a direction you’ll regret. Fatherhood is a huge rite of passage for any man, and getting educated, developing a plan and becoming involved is a no-brainer.


YOU SHOULD EXPECT

Ambivalence at Times:
Expect downs with the ups; you may cry at her birth and wonder what you got yourself into two weeks later. Sleep deprivation, rapid change in your life, and the sacrifices you make can bring overwhelming feelings for this child you barely know. You will bounce back up.

To Gain Strength from Your Baby:
A child brings out the best in us and makes us stronger. We all have issues we’d like to handle—from getting a degree to quitting smoking. When we hold our very immortality in our arms, finding the inner-strength to get it done becomes easier. 

To Come Last for a While:
The distinguishing characteristic of a man who transforms into a dad is priorities shift from his own interests to his child, partner, work and then himself. Changes in their lives are profound, but they take them in stride, even when sleep deprived.