The New Mom in Your Life:
Some new fathers are stunned by a rapid decline in their relationship once the baby arrives; others find theirs ultimately flourishing. If you understand how a woman transforms into a mother, how to support her, how to work together in raising your baby and how to bring back the romance, you’ll be a happy dad.
The Economics of a Baby:
Your family’s finances will change and you’ll need to respond constructively. In addition to outlining a new family budget, you’ll want to look at who works, who cares for the baby, commitments to long commutes or big mortgages, and how you and mom can bring balance to your lives, etc. Needless to say, big changes may be in order.
The Need to Be Proactive:
It’s easy to get swept along in mom’s wake by the changes a new baby brings, but you run the risk of going in a direction you’ll regret. Fatherhood is a huge rite of passage for any man, and getting educated, developing a plan and becoming involved is a no-brainer.
YOU SHOULD EXPECT
Ambivalence at Times:
Expect downs with the ups; you may cry at her birth and wonder what you got yourself into two weeks later. Sleep deprivation, rapid change in your life, and the sacrifices you make can bring overwhelming feelings for this child you barely know. You will bounce back up.
To Gain Strength from Your Baby:
A child brings out the best in us and makes us stronger. We all have issues we’d like to handle—from getting a degree to quitting smoking. When we hold our very immortality in our arms, finding the inner-strength to get it done becomes easier.
To Come Last for a While:
The distinguishing characteristic of a man who transforms into a dad is priorities shift from his own interests to his child, partner, work and then himself. Changes in their lives are profound, but they take them in stride, even when sleep deprived.