If neither of you understands what’s happening in the other’s head, conflict begins. This is where a new mom and dad’s relationship tends to start heading south. 

If you want to avoid becoming part of the two-thirds of all relationships that decline once your baby arrives, share this Mommy Brain/Daddy Brain information with her and talk about it. The objective is not for you to get back on her mind now (maybe just a little), but later when you settle in as a family. A talk should also assure you that, even though she’s not thinking about you, she still cares about you. And assure her that you know this.