The difference between our dads as “rookie” dads-to-be and “veteran” new dads is striking. They transform into different men, but they don’t have much of a clue as to how. When I ask our veterans how they did it, all they can say is “one day at a time”. If we showed them a video of themselves as a rookie, they would be surprised at how far they have come. We are starting to get the videos to show new rookies and looking deeper into how they did it.