Supporting a new mom

“ You’ll find that she’ll start crying and she won’t know why.
Just hold her hand and tell her it’s going to be okay...” - New Dad

supporting a new mom

“ You’ll find that she’ll start crying and she won’t know why.
Just hold her hand and tell her it’s going to be okay...” - New Dad

 There is nothing better for a new mom than a new dad who understands, appreciates, and supports her. This is the information you’ll need to “support her no matter what.”

Caring for a Mom-to-Be

This information will help you establish a foundation of support for her before your baby’s birth, instead of trying to catch up afterward when you’re sleep-deprived. 

Her Pregnancy

You already know pregnancy has a big impact on her; common changes are listed here so you know what she’s going through and what may lie ahead. Keep in mind every mom-to-be is unique.

First Trimester 

Some of the physical and emotional impacts she may experience in the first three months are:

  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Frequent urination
  • Breast tenderness
  • Acne
  • Fatigue; breathlessness
  • Odd tastes, food cravings 
  • A heightened sense of smell
  • Swollen breasts
  • Ups or downs re: sex drive
  • Headaches

She’s entered a strange new world full of surprises, which may be confusing to her. Having never experienced it before, she's dealing with her physical changes, emotional impacts, and the array of life-changing issues new motherhood brings.

What to do when she throws up.

Second Trimester

Some first trimester symptoms like nausea and fatigue tend to subside, though not entirely, and they’re replaced by new symptoms:

  • Heartburn
  • Constipation
  • Leg cramps at night
  • Swelling of legs, feet 
  • Skin and nail changes
  • Bad dreams
  • Clumsiness, forgetful
  • Impaired vision
  • Faintness, dizziness
  • Major weight gain

Her body is looking pregnant and she’s feeling it. Her energy should be back, and she’ll get used to her new world. Some women experience temporary increased sexual desire; you might get lucky.

Third Trimester

In the final three months, previous symptoms usually continue and are magnified:

  • Frequent urination
  • Fatigue
  • Hip and pelvic pains
  • Backaches
  • Sleeplessness
  • Shortness of breath
  • Impatience, frustration
  • Braxton-Hicks (false) contractions
  • Anxiety over delivery
  • Disturbing dreams about the baby

Although she’s in the home stretch, she feels more anxious than ever; her energy level is dropping and concerns about being ready are rising. She may flip between feeling enthusiastic and anxious.

Moms: No one told me I would want to murder people in my third trimester.

Ask her what she’s experiencing physically, look it up in her pregnancy manual, and tell her what you learned. This lets her know you care and want to hear about anything bothering her.