How you will transform

Parenting, it’s like a cult. You can’t understand it until you’re in it,
and then you can’t imagine things any other way
.”   — New Dad

HOW YOU WILL TRANSFORM

Parenting, it’s like a cult. You can’t understand it until you’re in it,
and then you can’t imagine things any other way
.”   — New Dad

How You Will Transform

The rookie dads-to-be in our workshops are full of questions and concerns.  They want to be a big part of their child’s life, but can't possibly know how much they don’t know. Six months later, they’re back as veteran dads with their babies to show-and-tell the rookies how it’s done.

Since you're preparing and will dive right in, you'll become a capable and confident dad too. At times you may need to dig deep for the strength to get the job done, and you will.

This Is the Track You Are On

Starting under the guidance of the nurses at the hospital, you'll learn quickly as you care for your infant. You'll know more than you think you do (aka your instincts kick in) and will begin to trust yourself. Then over weeks and months, you'll continually gain experience and proficiency in anticipating and meeting your baby’s needs.

The big change you won’t appreciate right away will happen inside you. Your genes will trigger and direct powerful “dad” reserves that will come online just as you need them. They include neurons, synapses, and hormones that'll form a new dad sector in your brain (link to The Force Will Be with You) that will support and reinforce your drive to do your best as a dad. As fatherhood gets tough in the early months, so will you.

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Another big factor will be changes in your baby’s brain, in sync with yours (See Dad/Baby Brain Fusion) (link). Your connection will become hardwired (link to dedicated neurons), which is why your baby will get excited when you walk into the room, and a goofy smile alone will make all your hard work, sacrifice, and stress worth it. The result is a father who will do anything to protect and care for his child, and a child with the ability to get dad to do it.

You will experience wide-ranging feelings that will be new to you as you adjust to being a dad; your brain will also transform and it needs to process a lot of issues. You will be surprised how the workload and sleep deprivation will take its toll, perhaps creating conflict with your partner.  You'll work your way through it. When your child is six months old, you’ll be a different man. A dad in all respects, who has fully committed himself to his child. A dad who has been tested and succeeded. A harder worker at home and on the job. A man who has developed patience and maybe cleaned up his act some. A better man.

When we ask our veteran dads how they transformed into fathers, they find it hard to remember who they were pre-baby. But, they all know how they got there - by doing their best day by day.

“If you’re wondering how your life changes, there’s only one word for it: Completely.”   — Veteran Dad

This is What the Dads Have to Say to You

Step up and be there. And keep coming back. You’re going to make mistakes – everybody does. You learn on the job.”   — Veteran Dad

Parenting, it’s like a cult. You can’t understand it until you’re in it, and then you can’t imagine things any other way.”   — New Dad

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“Just get into it from the beginning. Don’t worry about doing it wrong; don’t worry about doing it perfectly. As long as you get in there from the beginning and keep at it, it’ll pay off huge dividends with your wife." — Veteran Dad

Being a dad is pretty cool. The first couple of months were difficult, but when she looks across the room and finds me, it’s just cool.”   — Veteran Dad

“If you’re wondering how your life changes, there’s only one word for it. Completely.”   — Veteran Dad