Troubleshooting Crying

"I would have given anything to know why she wouldn't just stop..."

Troubleshooting Crying

"I would have given anything to know why she wouldn't just stop..."

Troubleshooter's Guide to Crying Babies

The Troubleshooter’s Guide to Crying Babies employs the same practical approach you’d use in solving computer problems: when a baby cries, you have to figure out the cause, and you often do so by trying different solutions (trouble shooting).

Utilizing this proactive approach to crying has been popular for decades, and will enable you to remain rational and focused on finding a solution.

1. Get Comfortable Comforting Your Baby

It will come naturally as you hold, rock, walk and calm your baby. Learn from the nurses, your partner, and mostly from your own experience.

2. Assemble Your Crying Hack Kit

Try some of the DEFCON based crying hacks, and after you see what works, invent your own.

3. Develop a Checklist On Why Your Baby Cries

Starting with the most common. A typical list might include:


Gas/Constipation/Dirty or Wet diaper/Diaper Rash/Frustration

Too hot/Too cold/ Needs to be held/Too noisy/Lonely

Too quiet/Bored/In Pain/Sick

Check each reason, ruling out problems as you try solutions, and then stick with what works.

4. Check for New Problems/Move on to New Techniques

Sometimes, crying is caused by random things like his finger may be bent back in his sleeve, a hair might be wrapped around his toe, or his clothing may be too tight. When current solutions lose their effectiveness, try new ones.

5. Getting Seriously Frustrated?  Put Him Down and Walk Away

You need to be prepared for when this will happen, as it does for most new dads. Check out for information and support.

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“To calm my baby down, I’ll stand next to the dryer, washer or kitchen sink with the water running. If that doesn’t work, I will sing or turn the radio on. And if that doesn’t work, I’ll take her outside for a walk or go for a car ride.” 

Baby Crying Timeline

They typically start off slow the first week with a low “wah wah” cry and the frequency builds after two weeks and peaks at about 6-8 weeks. Then it starts dropping down and by 3-4 months, it’s down to normal crying for feedings, tired, can’t get back to sleep at night, etc., with meltdowns not starting until after six months. Just to make things interesting, no matter how easy your baby is, there may be times when she is screaming like a banshee.

Talk To Mom Before Junior Arrives

Dealing with a seriously crying baby can add major stress and compound conflict between new moms and dads. It’s a good idea to have a talk with mom before the baby arrives about how you will handle the crying together. Having a game plan when you are both sleep deprived and your baby’s crying starts getting on your nerves will limit the frustrations you both will face.

“One time my wife left me with our baby, Madison, who wouldn’t stop crying. I panicked and decided to call my wife. Just before I punched "Call," I decided NO, I’m not going to call her. I put down the phone and started finding ways to calm Madison. A half-hour later she finally calmed down. It proved to be a real confidence builder for me.”