Caring for Your Newborn

"Give yourself grace and hold everything with open hands, because you never know what's coming once that baby is born." - Veteran Mom

Caring for Your Newborn

"Give yourself grace and hold everything with open hands, because you never know what's coming once that baby is born." - Veteran Mom

Adjusting to Life Outside the Womb

You know all about the three trimesters of pregnancy, but what about the twelve week period following childbirth—that stretch of time when you, Dad, Baby are adjusting to life as you now know it? 

It’s called the “fourth trimester” and every new family goes through it. 

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If babies could speak at birth, they’d tell you being launched into the world is quite a shock. One minute they’re curled up in your warm, cozy womb and the next, they’re out in the bright, wide open in a constant stream of new sights, sounds, and sensations. 

And for moms and dads, it can be equally shocking. Your formerly predictable home environment is now upside down as you wrap your brain around keeping a human alive. On top of that, your body is healing, your hormones are fluctuating, your marriage is adjusting and you’ve never been so tired in your life—a shock, indeed!

So, how do you proactively manage this window of time? 

We suggest adopting a flexible, no-pressure approach to minimize your stress and create a smoother transition. 

Some fourth trimester tips

Re-Create Life Inside the Womb

For nine months your baby adapted to a womb environment, so the easiest way to help her feel comfy is to mimic that vibe. In the womb, babies get used to being in motion, so look into a swing that moves front to back and side to side to match a pregnancy movements. Using a baby sling/carrier gives your little one that snuggled-up, attached feeling and lets you move freely about. And white noise machines and apps provide womb sounds (it’s loud in there!) and help soothe your baby to sleep. 

Let Go of Expectations

Placing unrealistic expectations on yourself, your baby and your spouse sets everyone up for stress. Like with any human you meet, it takes time to get to know them and your baby’s no different. She comes from your body, but that doesn’t mean you’ll instantly know her cues and needs, so stay patient while you get the lay of the land.

Follow Your Baby’s Lead

If you’re an organized, scheduled kind of person, going with the flow and following your baby’s lead may take some getting used to but it definitely pays off. A newborn’s circadian rhythm develops over time, so their waking and sleeping periods aren’t always predictable. At this stage, know that, slowly but surely, your baby will settle into a routine and things will become more manageable. 

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Parenting as a team sets the tone for your home environment and your future. Communicate your feelings and needs so Dad knows how best to support you. Trust that he’s capable of caring for the baby, so you’re able to take time for yourself. Stay on the alert for when “gatekeeping” sabotages your ability to lean on him. And know that teamwork is key to creating a solid family foundation.  

Get Out & Connect 

The fourth trimester can feel isolating, and it’s easy to get so cocooned in your house you can’t recall the last time you got out. Resist feeling isolated by getting fresh air, going for walks and keeping in touch with friends. 

Don’t Fear ‘Bad Habits’

In the early days, don’t increase stress by worrying about “bad habits” your child won’t be able to break (like pacifiers and thumb sucking). The goal is to get through this adjustment period as comfortably as possible, so make decisions that are best for your family and don’t compare yourself to others: if you’re thriving, so will your baby. 

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Getting to Know Your Baby

You’ve probably spent a lot of time imagining what your baby will look like, act like and who he’ll grow up to be, but know that he may actually be very different than you envisioned. You and your partner’s genes, plus family genes going back generations, will determine your child’s traits. And if you have more children, you’ll see that having the same genes doesn’t equal sameness: each of your children will have their own unique personality.

Your baby’s distinct identity is referred to in ancient traditions as the spirit or soul; it’s also described as personal preferences and tendencies. Whatever you want to call it, there’s long-standing evidence that we’re born with hardwiring that is the foundation of our identity. For parents, getting on board with this concept is crucial to smooth sailing.

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So, your first major challenge is identifying your child’s temperament: Who is she? Once you know her personality, you’ll have the key to unlocking how best to care for her and help her thrive in the world.

Embracing the belief that your baby has unique, pre-wired traits means: 

  • You’ll focus on your baby, rather than books, for the perfect technique. 
  • You’ll rely on your instincts, a method has proven effective for millenniums.
  • You won’t blame yourself if your baby is a crier, poor sleeper, or tense. If your baby is shy, you’ll accept he came into the world that way. 
  • You’ll quickly learn what she needs; following your baby’s lead makes interactions more productive.
  • You’ll worry less about doing things wrong; doing what doesn’t work leads to what does work and deciphering her personality.

Feeling intimidated from not knowing what to do may be unsettling, sometimes as soon as you drive away from the hospital. Anyone who’s had a baby knows that mixture of amazement at what you made and shock that people are letting you take a little human home. This is when you remind yourself nobody knows what to do at first; it’s a gradual process of trial and error and fostering teamwork that leads to growth and discovering what works best for your family. 

Remember: You don’t have to be a baby expert; you just have to get to know yours. And if you’re worried you’re not ready for the job—you are. Every mother goes through the same learning curve; soon enough, you’ll know exactly how to “read” your little one. 

How to Speak Baby

Before babies learn to speak, they’re already skilled at sending clues to get their message across. Understanding your child’s needs takes time and trust that you’re able to do what billions of mothers have done before you. 

Though often confounding, there are a few challenges all new babies present, mainly eating, crying and sleeping. Some cues are clear (fussing when hungry or rubbing their eyes when tired), and other cues are more elusive (an open-eyed look suggesting curiosity or a wrinkling of the eyebrow to convey discontent). Through following your baby’s lead and observation, you’ll learn which cues get his message across and the result is a beautiful, symbiotic relationship.

Baby’s Super Powers

Babies are incredible at getting Mom and Dad to do their bidding. The oxytocin surges they trigger lead to a deep and complex love between you. It’s a good thing because this love will see you through challenges like long, sleepless nights.

New babies have multiple fine-tuned senses:

  • A baby’s hearing allows them to perceive your varying vocal tones as subtle clues to how you feel.
  • Even with fuzzy eyesight, your baby is drawn to your face and will “read” it for clues to what you’re communicating.
  • A baby’s sense of smell and taste is keenly attuned and, even when half-awake, she knows the difference between Mom and Dad.
  • Her sense of touch is superb and a gentle massage from Mom or Dad has excellent, soothing benefits.

Nature has endowed babies with the ability to utilize these skills in a purposeful way to get their needs met. As you’ll soon recognize, their objectives go far beyond just surviving. Your baby’s sensory skills help him form an enduring bond with Mom and Dad and as he grows, his senses continue to help him understand his world. 

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Nurturing Baby’s Nature

During pregnancy, your baby kicks away and complex biological processes of human relationships are well underway. At birth, babies show a capacity and drive for human connection and an extraordinary ability to respond to our expressions; you’ll see his natural curiosity about the world and a desire to connect with you. A newborn’s intense gaze is the greatest sign he’s not just a passive creature but a fully engaged individual from the get-go.

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For many decades, scientists debated whether nature (genes) or nurture (environment) was responsible for how human beings turned out. A consensus was finally reached that both contribute to our personality.

Beyond the basics of comforting, feeding, and keeping him warm, safe and clean, a baby’s key need is for mom and dad to embrace his pre-wired self. And deciphering his personality at this stage of the game prepares you for when he’s even more complex (those teen years!).

When observing your baby, what do you see?

  • Is he mostly sleepy or very alert?
  • Does he cry with gusto or just whimper when he needs something?
  • Is he apprehensive, sensitive or feisty?

These early observations will help you decode your baby’s unique characteristics and preferences: if there’s ever a beneficial time to “be present,” this is it. Try to avoid labeling your baby’s traits as good or bad. You may feel he’s “high maintenance” because he cries intensely and is difficult to console because this isn’t typically thought of as “good baby” behavior, but this intensity may later translate into qualities that are dynamic and productive. 

While a child’s core temperament is fixed, the intensity of traits is influenced by how parents react to their child’s behavior. For example, if your baby is shy in social settings and you avoid them, their shyness gene is strengthened, but if you gently encourage him to grow comfortable in these situations, the gene is subdued. 

Babies who talk early and often get lots of verbal interaction with their parents, which enhances cognitive abilities, but the child who talks less is the one needing the interaction more. If a baby doesn’t respond well to affection, most parents provide less, but it’s the very opposite that reduces the gene’s power. 

And how your temperaments interact will also influence your child’s behavior and personality. He’ll tune into your cues and be sensitive to touch, words, expressions and feelings, including stress. Over time, you’ll develop a mutual understanding and create a language all your own.

“He goes into his brain and then you just see he is in another world. He still does that. Now I just leave him be, because I know he is designing a new rocket or something.” 
- Maye Musk, Mother of Elon

Temperament & Self Soothing

For babies, self-soothing relates to how easily they independently calm themselves: an important factor in learning to fall asleep on their own. 

Some babies are born with self-soothing tools like thumb sucking, but many aren’t sure what to do and would rather be rocked or carried. Knowing your baby’s temperament tells you what they need to self-soothe and sleep easier. If your baby is sensitive to sounds, you know she needs a calm, quiet space to fall asleep. If she has a hard time relaxing after a lot of activity, you know to factor in additional time for transitions to sleep.

Again, the most important element is that you’re paying attention. The simple act of observation draws us closer to our child and naturally attunes us to their individual needs. The next couple of decades will be a profound journey of discovery, and while you can’t predict what type of temperament your baby has, you can set a course for a parenting style that allows your whole family to thrive. 

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During the first few weeks, a baby tends to sleep…well, like a baby! But once she’s awake more, crying will take center stage as her main form of communication. As she gets older, you’ll get better at deciphering her signals: hungry, tired, just plain bored? Over time, you’ll know.

In the meantime, it’s frustrating and exhausting when you’ve tried everything under the sun and she’s still wailing her head off—and it’s bound to happen. When it does, remember it’s okay to put her down safely in the crib and give yourself a few minutes to regroup or ask Dad to tag team with you. If you and Dad have talked about tackling crying (as in: “We’ll both get frustrated at times and it’s okay to ask for help.”), it’ll be easier to take the break you need, even five minutes gives you a chance to compose yourself, and the same goes for Dad.

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There are also a number of things that help soothe your baby. New moms and dads swear by the five S’s found in The Happiest Baby on The Block by Dr. Harvey Karp. This step-by-step method teaches parents how to calm your baby by recreating sounds and motions in the womb, including swaddling, swinging, sucking and more. Dr. Karp suggests watching the DVD, rather than reading the book, and even grandparents can watch and pick up tools for soothing the baby when Mom and Dad are out. And white noise gadgets and apps are lifesavers for calming a crying baby, drowning out unwanted noise, and helping your baby sleep. (One dad in Boot Camp for New Dads found luck after duct taping a Roto tool underneath his baby’s crib for noise and vibration. Certainly not for everyone, but he definitely gets an A+ for creativity!) 

WATCH! Dirty laundry does the trick?

"You think, okay, that's how they communicate. I'll rock them, soothe them, do all the stuff. But it can get to the point, especially if they're colicky, where ti's the worst part of the day. You can get so overwhelmed when you can't stop your baby from crying." - Veteran Mom

Crying Checklist

Keep a crying checklist handy, because you’ll be in a fog those first few weeks and the list helps you remember things that seem obvious now. Just go top to bottom trying each one, then back to the top again. Start with the checklist below and add to it as you go (and be prepared for something to work one day and not the next: babies like to make sure we’re paying attention.).

Possible causes of crying:

  • Hungry
  • Clothes rubbing
  • Tired
  • Diaper pinching skin
  • Needs Burping
  • Frustrated
  • Gas/constipated
  • Needs to be held
  • Dirty or wet diaper
  • Too much noise
  • Diaper Rash
  • Room too quiet
  • Too hot/too cold

WATCH: "What's the Fuss? A Guide to Newborn Crying"

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Colic in babies generally starts around two weeks old and can last three to four months: often, it stops as mysteriously as it started. Colicky babies go through prolonged bouts of crying (usually, in the early evening: the “witching hour”), or they’ll make grunting sounds when sleeping. There’s no consensus on why babies become colicky, but an underdeveloped nervous system, being overly sensitive to stimulation are potential causes. Whatever the cause, it can be majorly exhausting and test your patience and confidence. The good news is colic appears to have no long-term adverse effects, and many pediatricians find probiotics reduce discomfort and crying (check with your doctor for recommended dosage and type).

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When to Call the Doctor

Colic in babies generally starts around two weeks old and can last three to four months: often, it stops as mysteriously as it started. Colicky babies go through prolonged bouts of crying (usually, in the early evening: the “witching hour”), or they’ll make grunting sounds when sleeping. There’s no consensus on why babies become colicky, but an underdeveloped nervous system, being overly sensitive to stimulation are potential causes. Whatever the cause, it can be majorly exhausting and test your patience and confidence. The good news is colic appears to have no long-term adverse effects, and many pediatricians find probiotics reduce discomfort and crying (check with your doctor for recommended dosage and type).

"I had those moments where I just broke down, and you're sleep deprived, baby's crying, inconsolable, and you can't get her to stop. And I just had to stop what I was doing and hand her to my husband and say, 'You've got to take her.' I just needed to clear my thoughts, take a breather, and that little breather made all the difference." - Veteran Mom

Soothing Baby

Some handy hacks for soothing your crying baby: Just go down the list one by one until you find what works.

  • Feed. It may not be her normal feeding time, but she might be hungrier than usual.
  • Swaddle. Newborns are comforted by that snuggled-up feeling they had in the womb. There are lots of “swaddling made easy” wraps out there and you can ask the hospital nurses to give you a tutorial.
  • Diaper Change. Check for a wet or poopy diaper, and if there’s a diaper rash, use a little ointment to soothe the burn. (For severe rashes, or if you’re unsure, call your doctor’s office.)
  • Burp. Babies swallow air when eating or crying and can get a gassy feeling if not burped.
  • Pat-Pat-Pat. Gentle patting is comforting to most babies and they love the feeling of being patted on the butt and/or back.
  • Hold him. Babies love the warmth and security of your body. Try different positions to see what works.
  • Rock out. Try a rocking chair or hold her while swaying side to side.
  • Distract him. Sing to him, show him a new toy, gently blow on his forehead, take him into another room, or step outside for fresh air.
  • Give her something to suck. Babies love sucking! It calms them down and releases oxytocin. Try a pacifier, a clean finger (with the soft side up), or breastfeeding.

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  • Stand, walk, or sway him. Babies really love movement and the combination of moving and getting their back patted often does the trick.
  • Talk or read. Bust out a good book, or tell her what you’re doing, what you see and what’s going on in the world: She’ll be soothed by your familiar voice.
  • Play. It not only distracts him, it assists brain development. Try moving his arms or legs and telling him about his body parts, or move an object back and forth across his field of vision.
  • Show her around. Sometimes all it takes is a walking tour around the yard or house. Tell her about the things you see. 
  • Try the swing. Most babies love an infant swing and it gives moms hands free time to get things done.
  • “Bicycle” his legs. He may have gas or constipation, so lay him face up on your lap and gently move his legs in and out, round and round.
  • Just dance! He’ll like the movement, it distracts you both and it’s a fun way to exercise!
  • Stroll. Babies love movement and getting outside: grab the stroller and go for a walk/jog around the neighborhood, backyard, or even the house!
  • Use a front carrier or sling. Leaves your hands free and the warmth of your body and beat of your heart soothes him.
  • Massage her. Gently stroke her back, legs or head.
  • Strike up the tunes. Play music you like (that he may remember from the womb). If that doesn’t work, mix it up with some jazz or classical to see what works.
  • Try a stimulating environment. After being in the womb where it’s noisy and there’s movement and vibrations, too much quiet can be unsettling, so try some white noise or music with rocking.
  • Try a calm environment. Over-stimulated? Try a quiet room with low lighting and gentle white noise.
  • Hop in the car. Usually the movement and vibration calms babies within the first few miles.

"One thing that worked for us was if he was crying, my husband would try to rock him and shush him back to sleep, and as soon as his patience started to go, I would pick it up because I was calm, and vice-versa: if I had him first, I would pass him to my husband. That's the thing with babies, they pick up on when your patience starts to go." - Veteran Mom

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New Moms & Dads Share Tips

  • “The motion of the rocking chair really did soothe her. I would get frustrated, but if I rocked her it was almost like I calmed myself as well. Because, at times, you do feel like you reach your limit.”
  • “We’d go outside and go for a walk with her in the stroller. You get fresh air, the baby gets fresh air and everyone gets soothed and calms down.”
  • “White noise. We still use it and it 100% soothes her. It was almost instantaneous. Playing it in the background, she would go from crying to content.”
  • “He likes to be patted on the butt.”
  • “Rocking her back and forth provides the rhythmic movement she really likes.”

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  • “She loves the ocean white noise. Perfect California girl.”
  • “The swing was helpful for sleep. And the pacifier.”
  • “Taking him outside. He loves to look around. A walk always calms him down, and it’s good to get out of the house. We’re at the place now where we go for a walk every day, and he calms down and it calms me down, and we come home happier.”
  • “When it was crazy-time and we were just in survival mode, I would definitely go down the list. #1 diaper change? #2 is she hungry? #3 is it colic? But now she’s hit the three-month mark and it’s so much easier. I go down the list and if it’s not one of those things, changing her scenery or her environment really works. If she’s crying, I bring her to another room.”
  • “Sometimes just lullabies work for us.”
  • “The white noise is great. We used the microwave fan, some people use the hair dryer.”
  • “Swing, swaddle, sucking, being on their side. They tend to work really well, especially in combination.”
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Baby Sleep 101: Some Basic Guidelines

The angelic face of a sleeping baby…it’s a glorious sight, and you’ll put a lot of time into learning how to achieve this. 

Before your baby arrives, you and your partner will want to discuss sleep goals so you’re on the same page. This chapter outlines the basics so you aren’t caught off guard trying to sort it out in the middle of a sleepless night. As always, there are various ways to go about it and each method has plusses and minuses. A proactive approach to sleep in the first four months of your baby’s life will establish successful sleep for the whole family. Your baby is unique, and figuring out what works best may take some trial and error based on the cues he’s giving you. 

  • You’ll see a gradual appearance of sleep cycles with periods of “active” sleep (NREM) followed by periods of deep sleep (REM). It’s natural for babies to startle, grimace, smile, or twitch momentarily during sleep.
  • Your baby’s sleep education will periodically regress into fussy periods when his brain is growing. On the upside, these stages often result in him developing new self-soothing skills.
  • Stay flexible in finding an approach that works best for your baby and once you find it, stay consistent in applying it.
  • Be mindful of your baby’s need for sleep or less stimulation. Drooping eyelids, yawning, or turning their head away from you is baby’s way of saying “I’m tired,” or “I’ve had enough.” 

Setting Yourself Up for Success

Lesson number one: You need to give your baby the opportunity to learn to fall asleep on his own. Babies who are breastfed, cuddled, bounced, walked or rocked to sleep for every nap and at night may struggle to “self-soothe” and will cry out every time they wake up. So if you’re working overtime to put your baby to sleep, chances are you’re looking at sleep issues that will keep you and Dad awake at night much longer than otherwise necessary.

It’s a hard issue. What makes things so confusing is that “putting your baby to sleep” by nursing or rocking works well at first so you’re inclined to keep doing it, but that sets you up for long-term sleep problems. The reality is, most parents are so exhausted they’ll do just about anything to see their baby drift off to sleep. From the start, approach sleep training as parent training for how to avoid poor sleeping habits.

The Sleepy Routine

Creating a nightly routine for putting your baby to sleep is universally recommended because it calms them, sends cues that sleep time is approaching and makes them feel secure.

Here are some bedtime routine ideas that parents found effective:

  • Overtired babies do not sleep longer and harder. In fact, being overtired actually makes it more difficult for them to fall asleep. Start your bedtime routine earlier rather than later and give yourself at least 45 minutes to go through the process.
  • Start your nightly routine focused on giving them a calm, secure feeling. Whatever routine you establish, be sure to stay consistent. Take your baby through the steps in the same space and order each time. Make sure the room isn’t too hot or too cold and it’s dimly lit (this signals it’s bedtime and triggers sleep hormones).
  • Your baby’s pattern may go something like: feeding (ditch the TV), bathing, diapering and pajamas, swaddling, a simple lullaby, turn on white noise, then put Baby to sleep in her designated bed.
  • Warm your baby’s bed with a heating pad on low (be sure to remove it before placing him in bed) and give your baby a little massage.
  • Since they pick up on your vibe, keep yourself relaxed and your breath calm to help soothe your baby.

Sleeping Tips 0 -6 Months

Some suggestions most parents agree are worth trying…

From 0 - 2 Months

In the beginning, newborns are sleeping and eating often. Put them down to sleep with the first signs of drowsiness, like drooping eyelids or some fussiness. Offer more frequent feedings before bedtime.

  • The small, enclosed space of a cradle, bassinet, or co-sleeper gives them a secure feeling.
  • If it’s not a regular feeding time and he starts crying, wait a little to see if he goes back to sleep on his own.
  • White noise is recommended (sound machines, phone apps and CDs). “If you use the same exact sounds for every nap and nighttime it becomes a familiar cue that lets your baby know its sleeping time. If you use the sounds as soon as you notice signs of tiredness it can lull your baby to sleep.” –Elizabeth Pantley, The No-Cry Sleep Solution
  • Swaddling mimics the coziness of the womb and minimizes waking up from jerky arm and leg movements.
  • Infants can’t tell night from day, so lights off at night and on during the day helps them learn the difference. Morning sunlight also helps to set their circadian rhythm (body clock).
  • Attach a dimmer switch to a lamp to turn it on and off slowly for nighttime feedings.
  • Skip one diaper change at night with an absorbable nighttime diaper and plenty of diaper cream.
  • Minimize talking and actively engaging (revving up) baby while getting ready for sleep.
  • If you can’t get a burp after a night feed, don’t sweat it; babies are calmer at night and swallow less air.
  • At about week eight, she may discover her hand and suck on it to soothe fussiness (yea!).
From 3 - 4 Months
From 5 - 6 Months

"At first, it's like going out on a date with're just figuring it out and it's hard. Allow the baby to show you who they are and adapt, and have people in your life who are supportive of that." - Veteran Mom

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The Business of Sleep Training

“Sleep training” has become a contentious, polarizing issue with wildly varying methods like crying it out, no crying, controlled comforting, and interval comforting. It can be an upsetting experience for moms and dads, but sleep deprived, frustrated and desperate parents will try anything. As always, find what works best for your family and circumstances.

One thing all “experts” agree on: sleep training isn’t suggested until a baby is 4 to 6 months old. Check with your pediatrician to confirm sleep recommendations based on your baby’s needs. If you decide to give it a go, bear in mind the debate focuses on the extremes (your baby screaming alone in his crib for hours or sleeping in your bed until he’s four), but few actually go this far: Most parents opt for the middle ground. And there’s tons of solid information online (e.g. to help you find a method that works for you.

Know that moms are innately more susceptible than Dads to anxiety over their baby crying, so work together and remember consistency is key. Some parents are able to sleep train in a few days, while others need a few weeks. Whatever your situation, don’t make comparisons and stay positive. It’s natural that the transition to a separate room may be challenging for your baby: time and patience may be required.

Baby Sleep "Hacks"

Some ideas that may work at any stage of growth…


Although often discouraged by breastfeeding experts, many parents swear by them (and sucking is a natural reflex). If you’re breastfeeding, introduce it after a couple of weeks or so when feedings are going smoothly. If your baby doesn’t get the hang of it right away, try using one after a feeding (as soon as she starts to suck on it, pull it out a little so she sucks it back in again).

Dream Feeds

A  feeding you offer before you head to sleep. Research indicates it helps babies sleep longer at night by stretching out the time between feedings. Around 10:30 at night, pick-up your sleeping baby, gently rouse him (diaper and swaddle), feed him, then off to sleep you both go.


These are popular, so if you’re doing everything you can and your baby is still waking up at night, try a swing with a reclined seat, but be sure it’s safety approved for sleeping.

Essential Oils

Lavender has natural relaxing property. Use a small amount of baby-approved scented massage lotion or Mom can apply it to her own neck so Baby picks up the aroma.

Co-Sleeping With Your Baby

This is a hot-button topic for new parents. On the one hand, we have advocates of co-sleeping until the child decides otherwise, and on the other hand, we have advocated for children being nowhere near the parental bed. As always, the vast majority of moms and dads fall somewhere between these extremes, and each family must decide what works best for them.

Supporters of co-sleeping like that it maximizes attachment and makes breastfeeding easier, and fans of this approach generally love being with their baby all night. It’s also common that co-sleeper babies get used to feeding more frequently and may struggle with self-soothing and transitioning to their own bed.

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Based on the American Academy of Pediatrics, parents are strongly advised to “room share,” not bed share, with infants. The risk of SIDS is reduced when the infant sleeps in the same room but is increased when infants share a bed with parents or anyone else.

Most babies start off in their parent’s room because it makes the night feedings easier and the close proximity to mom gives your baby a secure feeling. Consider putting the crib in your room or using a co-sleeper (basically, a bassinet you attach to the bed). Again, choose a routine that best suits your baby and family. You may find that you’ve planned for one type of sleep routine but end up going in a different direction—great! 

Flexibility is essential to finding the right fit and creating harmony for your family.

And, of course, it goes without saying that you should never be under the influence of alcohol or drugs when caring for or sleeping near your baby.

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What Veteran Parents Say

Everyone has unique circumstances and preferences, so always go in the direction that works best for your family.

“We had a 4-month-old who was keeping us up at night, and it was taking a toll on us and our daughter. Sleep training took 3 nights and she was sleeping through the night.”

“We tried the Ferber method and after about an hour of it, we just stopped. She only got more hysterical when we went into the room and never fell asleep.”

“It initially worked really well...a rough first night, but after a couple days she was putting herself to sleep pretty quickly.”

"Once we got into a routine, it was really helpful. We found out we were keeping him up way past the 'I need sleep' time." 

"My friends set up a meal train so that kind of decided when people could visit and I wasn't overwhelmed with visitors. I also set a time between five and six at night so I could schedule nursing and naps around that. People kind of know the first few weeks are hard. Your husband or partner needs to be your spokesperson, answering texts and emails  like, 'Now isn't a great time,' or 'She's nursing,' or 'The baby is sleeping.'" - Veteran Mom

"We made the decision we were going to tell people they could come for, like, 10 or 15 minutes, maybe a little longer, but we gave them specific windows. And I had no problem being the bad guy...if mom's getting tired, then it's time to say 'We aren't taking visitors right now.'" - Veteran Dad

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First aid for choking infants:

1. Can your infant cry or cough? If not, proceed to next step.

2. Give 5 back blows

3. Give 5 chest thrusts

4. Repeat steps 2 & 3 


Repeat above until effective or the infant becomes unconscious. If the infant becomes unresponsive, perform CPR. If you see an object in the throat or mouth, remove it by sweeping with one finger.

CPR for Infants:

If alone with the infant, give 2 minutes of CPR before calling 911, otherwise direct someone to call 911 immediately.

1. Shout & Tap 

Shout and gently tap the child on the shoulder. If there is no response, and he is not breathing or not breathing normally, position the infant on his or her back and begin CPR. 


2. Give 30 Compressions 

Give 30 gentle chest compressions at the rate of 100 per minute. Use 2-3 fingers in the center of the chest just below the nipples. Press down approximately 1½ inches.


3. Open the Airway 

Open the airway using a head tilt lifting of chin. Do not tilt the head too far back.

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4. Give Two Gentle Breaths 

If the baby is NOT breathing or not breathing normally, give 2 gentle breaths. Cover the baby’s mouth and nose with your mouth. Each breath should be 1 second long. You should see the baby’s chest rise with each breath. Keep giving compressions and breaths until help arrives.

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The First Six Months: Mom & Baby Activities

Babies learn and grow through play. Take a look at the activities below to get an idea of where to begin and then be creative and let your baby’s personality and preferences be your guide. Keep in mind that playing when they’re infants isn’t the formal version of play that usually comes to mind; it’s about getting them to explore basic things in their world.

0-3 Months

Talk Away! Have conversations with your baby and keep your face close to hers (babies love faces). 

Eye Contact: Your baby’s focus distance is about 10 inches right now but increases over the next few months.

Colors & Sounds: Babies are fascinated by sights and sounds. Shake a rattle or move some colored fabric (scarves) from side to side while he tracks it with his eyes.

Tummy Time: Your baby spends lots of time on her back already so mix it up by putting her on her tummy. Get down on her level, face-to-face, and make soft sounds and fun facial expressions to encourage her to lift her head.

Bust out the Books: It’s never too early to read. Start with rhymes and let her listen to the tempo of your voice. Babies love songs and singing, and they’re able to recognize rhythmic patterns. Studies show just hearing a parent’s repeated singing calms a stressed infant. And it doesn’t matter how pitch perfect you are; your baby will love your voice anyway. 

Mirror-Mirror: Position a safe, unbreakable, plastic mirror where your baby can see her face and explore.

Climb Aboard: Put your baby in a front-pack carrier and go about your day, narrating like a tour guide. Tell her everything you’re doing and why.

3-6 Months

Foot Fun: Put a brightly colored sock on one of your baby’s feet. Place him on his back and gently move the sock foot into view. Watch his expressions as you describe colors and patterns (“What’s that on your foot?”), and imitate his sounds of joy and curiosity.

The Push Off: When your baby does tummy time and makes swimming (“frog legs”) movements, get behind her and, using the palms of your hands, gently apply pressure to the bottom of her feet giving her something to push against. Eventually, she’ll start to push forward a few inches—mobile at last!

Dance Away: Hold your baby and dance around to fun music.

Get a Grip: Tape a piece of contact paper to the floor with the sticky side up and place objects he can grasp on the contact paper; let him lift them off and re-stick them. He’ll love the sticky sounds and challenge.

The Hammock: You and your partner hold each end of a blanket to create a hammock and gently sway your baby side to side. She’ll do little head raises and sit ups, building neck and stomach strength while having fun.

Elevator Ride: Once your baby’s old enough to hold her head up, lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent then place her on your knees and play “elevator legs.” Slowly push your legs down, so they’re flat on the floor (with baby still on your knees). Then pull your legs back to a bent position singing, “Elevator legs go up, elevator legs go down.” Your baby gets a little ride and you get leg exercises! 

A few things…

  • For babies, your face, hands and voice are always preferable to a toy, machine, or screen.
  • Your baby needs time to process stimulation, so downtime is important. 
  • Babies love repetition and don’t find it boring.

Baby Care Resources

There are many resources available, but the trick is finding support that works for your family. Here are a few favorites:

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