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Baby Won’t Stop Crying in Dad’s New Home










QUESTION:

I have recently split up with my partner and we have a 10-month-old son.

My problem is every time I try to spend some time with my son alone he will not stop crying when in my new home. He is fine when I am with him alone at my old house (were me and my ex lived together) or taking him out for a walk in his pram. For some reason whenever I have him at my new house he won't stop crying and screaming.

This is making me feel very upset and down. I don't get to see him often and because of this problem I can only spend time with him when taking him out for a walk in the pram or if I am with the company of my ex-partner.

I would really like to spend time with him alone but I don't know how to get around this problem. The last time he was here, he was crying non-stop for over an hour and a half before I had to call his mum. I find it very distressing and it seems he won't ever stop crying.




ANSWER:

Even dads living with moms get this reaction from their babies from time to time, so one dad used a picture of mom as a mask to bottle-feed his baby.

It's time to ramp up your crying skills! Try getting a baby back pack and put him on your back (or front facing out so he can see), put on headphones, and take long walks.The sights and sounds should distract him from whatever is bothering him, and when he does calm down, take off the head phones and talk to him like a tour guide, describing everything you see.

Babies do not respond well to change. Here are some suggestions to help him get used to his new home:

  • Take his blanket with him so he has a familiar smell in his new house.
  • Put him into his car seat in your house.
  • Show him a picture of mom so he sees something familiar.
  • Try not to take it personally; he is not rejecting you, he just doesn’t like being in an unfamiliar place
  • Give it some time; he has to get used to your house.

Remember, this is a phase and you will get through it, and when you do, you will know you hung in there for your son when he really needed it.

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